“Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself”
I’ve thoroughly enjoyed connecting with the heart of feminism over the past few years. Whether that’s intentionally or by mistake, consciously or subconsciously. It’s been an amazing journey.
For me, true feminism offers forgiveness, love and growth – not the fires of spiteful anger, violence and revenge, like so many people think it is or indeed want it to be. I think this is a great misuse and a terrible manipulation of the ‘shield’ of feminism. We mustn’t use feminism to justify recklessness and violence or to trample on others. We can’t use it to hide, excuse or justify wrongdoing. We must not turn feminism into an ugly, angry, clumsy troll.
Feminism is about peace, justice, love, grace, forgiveness, growth and truth.
NONE of those words are ‘soft’, ‘pathetic’ or ‘weak’.
In fact, they are the strongest, mightiest words I know.
I know what it’s like to be used. I know what it’s like to be treated badly because of my gender. I know what it’s like to experience sexual abuse and harassment. I know what it’s like to have your self worth manipulated and crushed. I know what it’s like to be angry and filled with rage. I know what it’s like to feel utterly alone, abandoned and ignored.
And I know that the strongest, most powerful tools I have to fight all of these things are those seven words I mentioned up there.
May we, feminists, commit to providing an alternative and righteous way of life that promotes:
Refuge, not revenge
Peace in place of pride
Justice in place of judgment
Love in place of lies
Community, not conflict
Equality in place of ego
Healing instead of hatred
Truth and not tyranny
Hope in the place of hypocrisy
Grace instead of greed
Forgiveness, not fist fights
Anyone care to have a stab at what they think a great
for feminism would be?